Written by Amy Borns
What is our worth? How do we define it?
As mothers, nay, women, we often define our worth as less than others.
I know, I know, I’m being terribly stereotypical here. But, truly, as a species we tend to put the ones we care about before ourselves in many ways, and put our own needs way down on the list. This mindset allows us as people to feel that we’re worth less than others.
I’ve been going to Reclaim for 3 years now. When I first started, my husband and I already knew James and knew that not only was he knowledgeable on all things health and fitness, he also was a great trainer and great guy. So, when he told me the price for a membership, why on earth did I balk? Because I questioned my worth.
How could I possibly justify spending $200-ish a month on a membership? There are so many other things we could use that money for.
- I have 2 children who need things.
- My husband still has college loans to pay off.
- We have things at the house that need to be updated/fixed.
- And the list goes on and on.
We surely would be missing that money.
It would put us into dire straits, we’d have to miss out on fun things, I’d have to get a second job, yada, yada, yada. (Oh, don’t act like you don’t know the crazy, unrealistic spiral your mind goes into in situations like this!)
I went ahead and did my 2 free workouts. I immediately knew this place was different from anywhere I’d worked out before. I came home and told my husband all about it. He asked if I thought I wanted a membership and I again repeated all the reasons we couldn’t afford it (i.e. I wasn’t worth it). He was the one who talked me into trying it, saying I should do a few months (of the lowest membership possible) and see how I felt about it.
There’s been no looking back since. 4 months after I started, not only were we not missing that extra money, I had upgraded to an unlimited membership and my husband had signed up as well. We have never missed that money. We find that the knowledge we’ve learned inside Reclaim has given us better self-discipline outside of Reclaim. We eat out WAY less than we used to. This saves us a lot of money monthly. There are other ways we find ourselves saving money but it’s not a conscious effort or something we have to constantly gauge. We just find that the money we spend on ourselves takes care of itself.
So, am I worth $200 a month?
Heck no! I’m worth so much more. Through this membership I’ve gained not only health and muscle, but I’ve also gained confidence, knowledge, self-control, self-discipline, regular stress management, friendships, and a new supportive community. All these things make me a happier person. And we all know, “if momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” Therefore, if momma is happy…
Ladies, there is nothing wrong with putting ourselves first at times. Taking care of ourselves and keeping ourselves healthy (both physically and mentally) is not selfish, it’s a necessity. If you aren’t at your best, how can you expect to give your best to others?
Likewise, only you can determine your worth. If you don’t think you are worth your own health, there is a good chance others won’t think you are worthy either. If you demand that you are worth it, others will respect that and treat you accordingly.
Let’s bust stereotypes, mommas! Let’s take care of ourselves, put ourselves first, and demand that we are worthy.
I am worthy.
We are worthy.
You. Are. Worthy.